I am Whole and Complete


“You are already integrated. Not on the periphery – on the periphery there is much turmoil. You are fragmented on the periphery. Move inward, and the deeper you go, the more you will find that you are integrated. There comes a point, at the very innermost shrine of your being, where you suddenly find you are a unity, an absolute unity.”


I’ve spent much of my life thinking I was “broken”, not really knowing how to deal with my full range of emotions, or how to cope when hardships come to pass.  It’s taken me quite a bit of mental work over the recent years to figure out how to constructively express anger or to just sit with disappointment, or even how to care for myself in a way that feels genuine.

As I align myself with my center, my intuition, my inner guide (my inner goddess even?), I realize how much easier life seems.  As I turn inward, and explore the depth and breadth of knowledge, experience and perspective I already posses, from my own life and from those who have touched my life, I feel a sense of security in knowing that I already have the tools I need to not only deal with life, but to thrive in it.

I now understand that I was never “broken”; I never needed fixing.  I just needed to get to know myself, the me inside, and to tap into this tremendous source of calm, love, and unity.  No matter how shaky life gets on the outside, I am as whole and complete on the inside as everyone else.


It’s all temporary


“The greatest wisdom to keep in mind with all the phenomena in the parade of your life, whether they be valleys or peaks, is that ‘this too shall pass’. Celebrate, yes, and keep on riding the tiger.” –Osho

Acceptance has been a buzz word in my life of late.  Through difficulty and ease, victory and disappointment, chaos and calm – accepting my current state of being, and the circumstances surrounding me, has helped to keep me sane.

This is no easy task, though, by any means.  I have spent most of my life avoiding my own pain, fear, sadness, embarrassment, boredom – you name it.  It is not easy to be present in a moment of hardship, and accept the pain it causes, especially if nothing else can be done.

Being able to acknowledge my own emotions, and name that which causes them, enables me to accept my situation, understand what lead me up to that point, and determine how I can respond.  Acceptance is a very powerful tool in this way.

But to accept and fully comprehend that my situation, my emotions, my challenges, and even my successes, are all temporary is astounding.  This means I can expect change, even plan for it!

During a difficult situation, knowing that something different (maybe even something better) is on the horizon can help to ease my pain.  And during times of celebration, I can make the most out every minute before the situation changes.

I realize this is a glaringly obvious lesson, but I often struggle to see past my immediate emotions.  When upset or depressed, it takes a great deal of effort to take a step back and see the bigger picture.  When excited or proud, I rarely think about the impermanence of these feelings, or my situation.

Understanding that circumstances can, and will change, can help to keep me present and focused on the emotions, situations and people right in front of me.  Knowing that it is all temporary can to keep me grounded and centered around my core, my truth.  Reminding myself that ‘this too shall pass’ will help me to be mentally prepared for this inevitably changing world.